|Pranay is a founder member of YRC Swapno|
Youth Facilitator (2015)
Read his earlier post
I am Pronoy. I am a boy, I am a Hindu by birth, a Bengali, and my food habits include eating rice, vegetables, fish and chicken. At first glance I am known in my world through these identities. I always tried to interact with people with similar identities.
Since I was in class VIII, I have been bothered by two things. One of them is a sad memory. On my way to school from home, I had made friends with a girl from my neighbourhood. This attracted a lot of criticism from her family and neighbours, because our society does not look kindly on interactions between an adolescent boy and girl. Everyone assumes that it always equals a love relationship. We too were marked within that stereotypical frame, and our interactions were stopped. After some time I came to know that we might have been allowed to continue to interact, had I been of the same caste as that girl. That day my caste identity caused me a lot of suffering. In my thoughts I blamed my ancestry. I used to question myself, why wasn’t I born into a higher-caste family? Where was I at fault? Ever since, I have felt great discomfort in expressing my caste-identity.